Being an events photographer, I interact with many people, as well as get to see the dynamics between friends, families and complete strangers. I’ve always had an interest in society and it’s workings and took it a step further by studying Sociology at varsity. That’s where my Sociology path stopped though because I eventually went on to become a photographer. I still get to study society, just in a different non-scientific way. Rather my own qualitative unstructured analysis.
The reason this topic came into being is from my constant experience at events which led me to wonder, “Why do people gossip?”. We all have been privy to some sort of scandal or gossip or even participated in it. What I would like to establish, is why do it?
I shared my thoughts with my mum and her take on it was, “People choose to gossip based on some insecurity they have. Sometimes they choose to slander another probably because they want to manipulate others into being on their side. It’s an ego thing or a pick-me-up. At the end of the day, the one who gossips just wants to be liked and appreciated. Try to refrain from gossip. The best way to live your life is to ignore the chatter and stay focused on your path and your own truth. You have nothing to prove to anyone. What you do is between you and your God.” Wise woman indeed.
At events such as weddings, I see this all the time. Most of the time a person will gossip when they feel slighted or wronged in some way. In my opinion that person chooses to be a victim and seeks approval and validation for their feelings. Everyone is entitled to feel what they feel but I believe that we should take a step back and realize that our perception of a given situation is not always the truth.
What do you do if you know you’re the subject of gossip? No better suggestion than this…
“Don’t waste your time with explanations: people only hear what they want to hear.” – Paulo Coelho